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True Love! What is it?

Love is one word that has many meanings … There is a love of a father for his daughter or son, there is motherly love, there is love for a brother or a sister, there is a child’s love for his parents, there is love for a friend and there is romantic love … etc.  We use one word to describe all those emotions that are not the same …

Here I am speaking about romantic love … You know the love that is represented by the red love heart that comes from the cleavage of Aphrodite’s ass … The ancient Greeks worshipped Aphrodite’s ass … The Greek Goddess of love that the ancient Romans called Venus cos they didn’t have cool Gods so they stole the Greek Gods and gave them different names …

Is there such a thing as true love and if it does exist what is it? If true love exists I have not found it or I don’t know what it is … Is it meeting one person that is your soul mate and you live happily ever after? Is it meeting multiple people that come into your life for a period of time then they leave or is it just an animalistic attraction to someone to replicate based on the best match that you can find according to a preprogrammed blueprint?

For me I have fallen in love many times with different girls, had strong connections but I have not met my soul mate. Do soul mates exist or do people just meet someone that they have a crush on then they end up spending the rest of their lives with them for the wrong reasons? I have only met a few people that really really genuinely love each other, other people just stay with someone because they have kids or are afraid of being on their own. We live longer these days so the divorce rate is higher. Is it better to get married young and ended up divorced like most of my friends or is it better to get married late then you will not have enough time to get divorced as you will not live that long?

For me, I would rather be with someone who I love if I don’t love them then there is no point. I have not had kids yet as it is a big deal for me. If I am to have kids I would like to have them with a person that I love not just with anyone. I didn’t have a great childhood. I would not want my children to go through the same thing as I did if I have them. People have kids these days like they are buying a packet of chips from the shop. Hey, you can’t take them back when they come out. You actually have to take care of them. Maybe it is just me that has it all wrong …

When I was younger I used to feel butterflies in my stomach when I met someone that I had a crush on. These days I don’t feel that. I still feel attraction except it is not as intense as I used to feel it when I was younger. Is that something that changes as you get older? Well, it has for me … Is that why they call it young love?

My friend Rach said “When true love enters your life, epic happens” What is this epic? It is real? These days it is hard to find a connection with someone. It is easy to meet people and you don’t even need skill with apps like Tinder and Bumble … You swipe right if you like them or left if you don’t. If you match you chat for a while then you are out for a drink … It is so confusing. You don’t get to know the whole person. You only get to see part of them then the other part is filled by your imagination … Till you meet them you don’t have the full picture and most of the time when you meet them there is no real connection … Is it hard to find a connection these days cos most people think only of themselves? Like you know with social media everyone is broadcasting and no one is listening … Most people want a relationship but are not willing to put in the effort … It is all fun and games when everything is going well but if anything happens then it comes back to looking after number one and fuck everyone else …

So where do we go from here? Am I gonna find my one and only or am I just gonna find love with multiple people for a short period of time or am I never gonna find it? …

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  • HassMan
    Posted at 19:11h, 09 January

    I want the whole zoo not just butterflies … 😜

  • Ruby Tuesday
    Posted at 21:39h, 08 January

    I am thinking there is a noun, love, which is definitely a feeling state, but there is the verb to love, which is of course something you do, giving love is a creative act, a chosen act. The feeling state is transient, and dynamic and must be fed and shaped by the doing part.

    Just when you think the butterflies have become sedated, they come to life again. Never underestimate those damn butterflies and their ability to emerge from their sleeping cocoons and driver you mad again. Hahahaha!

  • HassMan
    Posted at 12:27h, 22 November

    Thanks for the comment Philip! I’m a fan of different points of views … 😉

  • Philip Shields
    Posted at 11:40h, 22 November

    A couple of thoughts here for you mate:

    The quote is: “When true love enters your life, epic happens”

    I would argue that “True love doesn’t ever enter our life” – by saying it enters our life, takes away any possibility that we have the power to create it.

    As such ‘true love’ – and I will drop the word ‘true’, as for me it is meaningless to add the word ‘true’ to the word ‘love’ – so ‘love’ is a creative act that is about creating possibility.

    The only thing ‘love’ is depndent on is me to create it – when I believe it I create it – when I state it as being true – i.e. “I love you”, or “I am in love” then I have created something form nothing.

    Before I spoke these words there was nothing. In the process and act of stating these words I have created the possibility of ‘love’ and all the ethereal things and feelings that this notion entails. That is not to diminsih the significance of love at all.

    Love as a feeling, as an emotion exists for us as an internal state phenomenon – it doesn’t have an exact location inside of us or outside of us, we cannot pin point it down or describe it adequately with words, we have to experience this internal state phenomenon to truly get it (again, by saying this, I do not want to diminish the significance of the feelings and sensations associated with love in our lives).

    So I invite people to get that love as a feeling, as a description of an internal state phenomenon is a creative process. It is something that we create. In saying the words “I love you” we create an opening, a possibility, a world that we walk into and live into as actions, from the moment that we state it.

  • HassMan
    Posted at 20:44h, 08 October

    I discovered that the butterfly feeling appears every now and then but it is very rare when you are older … 😉

  • Don't be so nosey
    Posted at 23:54h, 07 October

    Sometimes after one date you already know that’s as far as things will go. If you meet a lady with a few common interests then that’s a start and you build from there, it’s not always going to be roses but that’s life nothing & no one is perfect, we need to be happy but go with the flow and not have such high expectations as we just set ourselves up for disappointment. One lady above has said it already I don’t think at our age we get that butterfly feeling anymore as our awareness is different & we tend to compare with past experience. I believe there’s someone out there for everyone is just where is she/he lol !!!

  • HassMan
    Posted at 20:37h, 07 October


  • Vette
    Posted at 20:36h, 06 October

    There is true love. It’s being in the right place at the right time. It’s being kind, caring, selfless and compassionate. It’s give and take. I’m so lucky to have true love. I’m so fortunate my partner loves me enough to be a dad to my son too. That is true love for our family. Never give up! True love is there. Just keep searching.

  • HassMan
    Posted at 05:54h, 05 September

    Yes that love exists too.

  • Deborah Hunter Kells
    Posted at 21:02h, 04 September

    Wel there is the love you have for when the other loves fall down. Agape or undeserved loving kindness or dying for one’s enemy 🙂

  • HassMan
    Posted at 13:45h, 07 July

    Thanks for the comment and for what you think. I am glad you liked it. I will be a butterfly catcher … ha ha 😜

  • Heide
    Posted at 17:56h, 06 July

    I enjoyed this. I think as you get older you become more cautious…hence the lack of butterfly action. When you’re younger the “what’s going to happen next” excitement and the starry eyed trust slowly gets eroded by crappy relationships. Hope you find your bliss and catch some butterflies 😊

  • HassMan
    Posted at 19:57h, 12 June

    True True … You have a point there … 😉

  • Tami swanson
    Posted at 01:08h, 24 April

    I felt the same butterflies and guess what when u meet the right person u will feel them again. You can always adopt.

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